Grief 101: How to Cope with the Bruins Collapse
Well, it’s been one painful stretch for Boston sports fans. The Bruins gave up two goals in the last 1:17 of the third period and handed the Stanley Cup to the Blackhawks on home ice, the Heat and Ray Allen won the NBA Championship, Rivers left the Celtics, Gronk had another back surgery and Aaron Hernandez is a potential suspect in a murder case. When things can go wrong, they will.
The day(s) after a Championship loss is always miserable. Especially after a game like last night. The city needed, and deserved to play in a Game 7. I mean, we had it! One minute the Garden was celebrating, and then before we knew it the guys in black and red were hoisting the cup. And suddenly, all of New England enters a deep state of depression.
But don’t worry, I’m here to help. Here are some key tactics in overcoming grief in the days after a crushing loss:
1. Do not watch, read or listen to anything sports related
Unfortunately for us here at Spogo, this is impossible. However, for you cube-dwellers, it’s your lucky day! Do everything in your power to avoid reading about the game or watching highlights. At least for one day. This is an extremely difficult task. People talk about the game on your bus ride to work, you catch a glimpse of ESPN buying your morning coffee, you check Facebook only to see your ex-girlfriend’s status – “there’s always next year! yay!” — it seems as though the darkness follows you wherever you go. Try to avoid it.
2. Only talk to fans who care more than you do
The most painful losses of my Boston fan career include the 2003 ALCS and the Superbowls of 2007 and 2011. After each of these games, I didn’t want to talk to a soul. Getting texts from your Mother that read, “That was a heartbreaking loss :(…Don’t be depressed! It’s summer. ” (actual text from this morning) do not help. The only way to cope is to talk to those who are in more pain than you. Commiserating is a surprisingly good medicine.
3. Look for a silver lining
I do not do this. But I’ve seen those who do and they seem much happier than I. But find positives if you can. We lost in the Stanley Cup, we were one of two teams standing in the end. We were able to watch hockey in 90 degree June heat. And with such a youthful team (sans Chara and Jagr), the Bruins have a bright future ahead of them. I don’t believe a word I just wrote, but hey, it might work for you.
I hope the above advice helps. If you are in serious danger of harming yourself or others, please call the Spogo Help Hotline at 617-IMSOSAD.